The only way to have a successful relationship with someone is to love and accept them 'as is'. Relationships are an endless quest to fix others, control them, or pretend they are something they're not. Love is letting those we love be perfectly themselves, and not twisting them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we see in them.'Be gentle and for-bearing with one another and, if one has a difference (a grievance or complaint) against another, readily pardoning each other; even as the Lord has [freely] forgiven you, so you must also [forgive]'. To love someone 'as is' means to focus on their areas of strength and support them in their areas of struggle.
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